Striking The Balance – A Working Mom’s Guide To Awesomeness!

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This post has been written by Sanam Asif. She blogs at Typical Mom Blog.

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Since I was a teenage girl, my mother had taught me the lesson of financial independence. In my family, I had great role models to look up to. My paternal aunt was one of them, a no-nonsense, hard working customs officer. Seeing her made me want to grow up and get a job, I could not wait to finish studies and finally enter the workforce. After submitting my FYP in 2009, I was among the first students of my batch to get a job. In January 2009, I started working as a Trainee SQA Engineer and my father couldn’t be more proud of me. In 2011, I had to leave my job as I was getting married, after having promoted twice in two years at my workplace.

I had my daughter in 2011, and in 2013 I finally decided to give my career a second chance. Today, more and more mothers are opting to pursue their careers. This was the thought I had in mind when I started applying for jobs. My husband wasn’t in favor of it, but he agreed to let me experience being a working mom. What started off as an experiment for me, continued for 3 and half years. After joining, I realized what a task it is to juggle a family life with a full time job. Ever since I had the accepted the job offer in November 2013, there was a sense of guilt that had taken over me. My daughter was just two years old and going back to work was the biggest decision of both our lives. On one hand, I was excited to be joining the work force again, being independent and on other hand I was feeling guilty that I may be missing the major milestones of my daughter’s early years. It was a hard decision for me. While I worked hard to grow in my career, I was also trying to be a good and attentive mother to my daughter. It took me many months to figure things out.

Just two weeks after joining work, I suffered a miscarriage. I was unaware of the pregnancy but the ordeal shook me. It was the first time I questioned my decision. As I was new, I couldn’t even take any leaves from work. It was one of the toughest times in my 3.5 years of employment at that place but luckily, I recovered quickly. After that it was a topsy turvy effort for me in trying to maintain the work-life balance. I would like to share some points with you ladies who are trying to fulfill their home and workplace duties equally. I hope you are also able to apply them as much as they were useful for me.

First thing to remember is let go of the guilt. It’s very important. I have been there and felt that guilt and trust me it does no good but to bring you down. If you are determined to work and know that your family is benefiting from it then you must start thinking positively. Every time a sense of guilt overcomes you, think of the ways how your job is helping your family have the lifestyle you always wanted. Remember, there will be some good days and some bad ones.

The next very important step is to have a proper, practical schedule. After six months into employment, I developed blood pressure. The reason- chaotic mornings. Oh boy, what a nightmare it was to wake up late and rush. My routine was to prepare dinner first, cool it and put it in freezer, then make breakfast, wake up my daughter and get her ready for school, feed her breakfast, make lunch, get ready for work, pack lunch and we would all leave the house together. To accomplish this, it was a necessity for me to wake up at 6am. Even if its 6:30, things would go awry. I used to two alarms so I would wake up on time. So keeping a schedule and following it is definitely going to help you avoid being in rush in the morning.

One rule I religiously followed was to have family time with no interruptions. Every day after getting back from work I would have a nice talk with my daughter about her day. We used to watch cartoon together after dinner every night before going to bed. During that time I tried to have my full attention to her. The weekends were hers also. It wasn’t like me and my husband tried to make up for not being with her all week, it was more of the joy we felt being with her. The weekends were all about her homework, next week’s plans and outings. Do whatever your kids like to do. In the end, it doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you do it together.

Although I don’t go to work anymore; instead I am now a work-from-home mom, I feel that working moms don’t have it easy. One miss and things can go wrong either at home or office. It’s a constant struggle for us. While we try our best to have the best of both worlds and we often end up forgetting ourselves – the star of the show. Working moms should take care of themselves. Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of everyone else. Only when you are happy and healthy, you will be able to go on and create a balance in both roles you have.

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This post has been written by Sanam Asif. She blogs at Typical Mom Blog.

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